“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.’’- Virginia Satir.

Have you ever been bullied or witnessed someone being bullied? One out of every four students (22%) report being bullied during the school year. (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2015). The most often reported reasons for being bullied were looks (55%), body shape (37%), and race (16%). (Davis and Nixon, 2010). Regardless of whether it is in school or not, many people have felt like they have been a victim to bullying. The world of bullying has a life of its own. Whether it was a big part of your life or a small part, unanimously everyone agrees that it is no laughing matter.  Studies show that the effects of bullying on a developing teenager can cause depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy. These issues often persist into adulthood. If the effects of bullying can cause so many serious problems, why do we still tolerate it? Children of every race, gender, grade and social strata are impacted, but it doesn’t have to be this way.

From personal experience, I know the effects and toll it takes on individuals. Many other students feel strongly about bullying as well.  “It’s ridiculous and unnecessary because we are all equal as people. Others shouldn’t be put down for things they like or the way they look. Bullying is for people who have nothing better to do with themselves,” says Jamie Kendall, Lafayette Senior.  “Nothing good comes out of bullying so why even do it?”  pondered Tatum Sybert, Lafayette Senior.

There are many organizations and individuals that can provide guidance and support including the school counselors, teachers, and professional therapists. Victims must be encouraged to report the acts of bullies. School leaders or others that support children and teens should be sending a clear message to bullies that bullying is not tolerated. They must also send a clear message to victims that failure to report an act of bullying will ultimately give bullies the notion that it is okay to continue to bully.

If bullying is not tolerated, then how do we want students to be treating each other?  Any kindness or regard for someone is a positive contribution to our community. I am a firm believer in “treat others the way you want to be treated.” It has a big impact on the way people see themselves. It has a bigger impact on the way you as an individual are viewed. Respect people’s feelings. A meaningful life is not being popular or living up to a certain expectation. It’s about being humble and being able to positively affect people around us.